I’m not huge on the idea of writing family newsletters. I love reading other family newsletters, but I guess I’m not comfortable writing my own. I don’t like to draw attention to us because it seems like a huge “look at me, look at us, our life is great” kind of thing. But as is usually the case, the wife first pleaded her case, then resorted to begging, and hence got her way, and here I am writing a family newsletter. However, I am doing it on my own terms, bloggerstyle (meaning extremely long winded). And if I am doing this, I’m bragging about my kids. I’m just preparing you.
I wish the wife would’ve told me at the beginning of 2004 that she wanted to do this because then I could’ve taken notes and not had to resort to my horrible memory for eventful things that happened to us this year. But I’ll try. And I’ll admit, it took a few instant messenger sessions with the wife to help put this list of things together and I know we’re still missing tons.
Although it didn’t happen until early September, Brian starting kindergarten might’ve been the biggest thing for us this year. At Brian’s school (Los Altos Christian), they don’t allow five year olds to go to kindergarten, unless you pass a special test. Imagine that. At five years old, already having labels placed upon you. Usually five year olds go into what is called kinderprep, and although we were fine with him going to kinderprep, we didn’t want to hold him back if he was ready for kindergarten. He took the test, passed and joined a bunch of six year olds in kindergarten. It’s definitely a challenge for him (and for mom as well when she sees feedback from his teacher on things he needs to improve on) but a necessary one. I actually like the fact that he’s in there scuffling with a workload that I probably didn’t receive until I was in the second or third grade. He’s the kind of child that needs challenges as there are so many things about his life that aren’t hard. I think it will make him a better person as he grows up. And the kid is getting it. His short attention span (that he probably received from me) doesn’t help, but he’s learning and he can do things at a young five that really are amazing.
As for Jonathan (known as JJ through the rest of this), he’s four and in preschool at Sunnyvale Christian. JJ is a fireplug. That’s one of the ways I can think of how to describe him. Emotional. Firey. Tough. Hyper. Crazy. Those are others. But also very gifted. I look at him at age four and wonder how a child can have so much personality and emotion and then be able to sit still and grasp the things that he does. He’s a sponge. He can watch something, and then repeat it. Watch and repeat. He’s got so much rhythm that the wife would actually rather dance with him than me. He also has so much passion for the things he likes. That passion was tested when he broke his leg in the late summer/early fall. I tell this story second hand because I actually wasn’t there. There are actually two sides to this story. My wife’s and JJ’s. Carol’s story is that JJ and Brian were swinging in the backyard on their playground and she had to run inside the house for something and JJ slid off the swing and fell to the ground. We hadn’t yet put grass back there and he probably grazed a rock that didn’t have any give to it and his leg just sort of crumpled beneath him. JJ’s story is that he fell and mom didn’t catch him like she was supposed to. I believe JJ’s story. I thought the kid was going to have the hardest time with his injury because he had a heavy cast on his leg which meant that he had to be carried until he figured out how to scoot. But he didn’t even have a problem with it. Two months later, he’s running with Brian again. It was like it never happened.

Rey Mysterio And Ultimo Dragon Or Not
Leg injuries were the norm in our household this year. As most know, I play semi-pro baseball. Semi-pro might sound snazzy. But it literally means that I pay to play baseball. Adult little league sounds less impressive. Anyway, it also means that I’ve been playing baseball non-stop for 21 years and can’t give it up. I was off to my best start of my adult career. I was hitting for a very high average and leading the team in RBI’s and runs scored. We were winning a game in early June and then started to give up the lead. Going into the last inning, we were down by several runs but started making a comeback. I simply had to keep the inning going. I had already doubled twice off the wall and was pretty much in a zone. They brought in a young kid who was throwing harder than I’d seen in a few years, but it felt right. I took one pitch for a strike and then fouled the next ball off. It was 0-2 and at the next pitch, I took a mighty cut. Around the time the ball hit the bat, I could tell something was severely wrong in my right knee. It felt as if the kneecap had come off the knee. The ball fell in right field as I fell to the ground clutching my knee. I could tell the kneecap was back on the knee, but there was no way I could get up. If I had even been able to crawl to first base, we would’ve won the game, but because the umpire was so chagrined, he called the ball foul. I was told it was easily fair. I was carried into the dugout only to watch my cousin strike out on the next pitch, thus ending our comeback. I would be out for three months and make my comeback in the playoffs against doctor’s orders. My saving grace was hitting a home run against an old friend with my right knee buried in a knee brace.
It seemed fitting that most of the things I can write about Carol have as much to do with the rest of us as it has to do with her. She’s the glue to the household, the adhesive that keeps everything in our lives going. From managing the household to making sure the kids are in school and busy with activities, to as she likes to call it, “taking from Peter to pay Paul”, to making sure we go to Disney Land once a year (I hadn’t been until I was 21 while the kids have been there every year of their life), to being a daughter, daughter in law, wife, and mother to two children. She has a busy life. And though she wouldn’t mind cutting back on the work load, she lives for the fast life and would probably go insane if her life were any slower. And if she could cook, she’d probably be the perfect woman. Sorry guys, she’s taken. Actually, let me say one thing. She has perfected my dad’s Chicken Tortilla Soup. It’s spectacular. So, if she could cook other things, she’d probably be the perfect woman.
Some other key moments happened outside our immediate household. I’ll bullet point them here.
- My dad turned 50 and my mom and sister threw him a huge bash
- My sister faced some “fork in the road” type decisions and has decided right now, to stay in the teaching field, getting a job at Kindercare (or maybe not, stay tuned)
- Mom turned 51 and manages to hold up her household, stay busy with fixing up her house, and is still taking care of kids (our newest cousin Brandon)
- My nephew Ricky also started kindergarten and his brother Max is busy with preschool (Ricky, like Brian is the calm one, while Max, like JJ is firey)
- We had a nice little Christmas party with our good friends, young Randall, HJ, Eddy (JJ and Brian’s Godfather), and the departed Blake
- My company, Shopping.com went public

Good Friends Do Silly Things For Your Kids
I have been saving this for last, because it was probably the biggest thing that happened to us this year. We took our San Jose roots to Gilroy. We bought a brand new house in the garlic capital of the world. We had been living in south San Jose in a very nice home, but had a chance to get a dream house of sorts and like everything we’ve done in our lives thus far, took the ball and ran with it. For some reason, Carol hates playing it safe and can change my rather safe mind. The house is awesome. It’s everything I’ve ever wanted in a house. My commute is as long as ever, the kids have to get up early (which is for their own good), and Carol’s last minute style probably makes her heart race even more because we are further outside of where everything is. But, it’s worth it.
At the end of 2004, we agreed to the arduous task of hosting Christmas Eve for Carol’s side of the family, and then some 11 hours later, hosting Christmas Day for my side of the family. It was going to be tough, but we were ready for the task. That’s why you want a big house right? Carol lives for hosting parties and I am starting to like it muchly so as well. On Christmas Eve, as is the norm, some of her family was late. It’s usual. As the sun rises and sets, a few people in her family are just late people. And it’s their character. It doesn’t take away from how much we love them. It’s just their way. But we were ready for it. It was expected. And yes, dinner was served at 10PM. But Carol and I weren’t going to let this deter us from our goal of hosting two great parties in the span of a day and a half. Everyone had a great time and helped clean up and at the early morning time of 3AM, we finally went to bed, ready for what was already the next day. My parents and sister came over a few hours before the 1PM start time of the party and we exchanged gifts like we have every year in my 28 years of life. And then in what I can only describe as organized chaos, we transformed our house once again into party central. As is the norm in my side of the family, most everyone was on time, even early. There were three times as many people over on Christmas Day but with everyone’s help (my mom and Carol especially), it was a success. Will we do it again? Probably as it’s in Carol’s morbid nature.

My Workout Room/Shrine
Thanks to all our friends and family for being there and for being who you are. In my opinion, the reason life works has to do with hard work, some luck, and lots of love. If we didn’t have all the support from friends and family, it wouldn’t not only be possible to be as happy as we are, it also probably wouldn’t be as fun as it is.
Thanks,
The Gonzales Family II